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i live in the uk and was wondering what i should do if i think someone is following/stalking me?

Tom B - 2009-01-21 15:14:51 - Law Ethics

im 14 and i live in silverdale, lancashire. on saturday i was having a lie in on my bunk bed when i noticed a car parked across the road with a man with grey hair sitting in it. he just sat there looking at me from his car for about 15Min's and then as soon as i got out of bed he drove off. i thought that he was just waiting for someone but i actually felt scared. last night at about 11 o'clock i remember looking out of the window onto the front lawn and seeing him standing there, when he saw me he started to laugh and i screamed. i don't know what happened next but in the morning i woke up in my own bed and i was really worried. i didn't know if seeing him on the lawn was a dream or not but i was sure he was following me. i have to do a paperound and i was actually scared to go outside because of this guy. should i ring the police if i see him again? when i went to school i told my mate and he thought that i was being paranoid, i arrive home from school at 4 0'clock and its dark by 5, and i'm on my own till 6 o'clock before my mum comes home from work. i was actually begging my friend to walk me back to my house, i ws that scared. if i see him on my property can i defend myself with a knife? please, i need advice.this is not a prank ive spoken to my mum, she said that i was imagining it. im to scared to leave my bedroom, when i go home from school today i closed the curtains and hid under the sofa. when im on my paper round, i keep seeing him everywhere, not actually him but i look at a fence post or hedge and it looks like him. at school today at breaktime i was talking to my friend when he walked past and i just started to scream. i don't know what happened then but denzel told me that i was going balistic, and trying to run away. kathrynn, i appreciate the comment but, 1st he was watching me threw the window, 2nd he was in the garden. not the other way around and when i was in the bunk bed, the curtain was up ad it was like 10am sec one, i was wondering if i should call the olice because i could be going crazy/imagining it and if so, il be wasting police time

Best Answer:

You are describing a psychological disorder called "paranoid personality disorder" (paranoia, panic, lapses in memory). It is very serious, but it is treatable. If your mum doesn't take you seriously (Shame on her!) talk to your school counselor, your physician, any medical professional ... Keep going until you get some help. Please get some treatment before you actually pick up that knife and ruin two lives.

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just pull it out and they will run, shame on anyone doing that to you be careful

This is what your parent's tax money is used for....the Police.....to protect you. Next time you see him call them.

Why don't you tell your mum about it and ask her to contact the police? This is far too serious for you to ignore. Using a knife is NOT the answer. It won't come to that if you speak to the police. Please do it as soon as possible.

you need to ring the police if you see him again

Keep your friends around. Get his license plate number. Yes, contact the police - their report is the first legal step in initiating action. Ask your neighbors to help keep an eye out for this creep-o. And do tell your Ma what is happening.

Tell your mum, tell your teacher, go to the local police station and tell them.

DONT use a knife try and tell someone you trust - parent, brother/sister, teacher Try and get someone to come with you on your paper round Sounds obvious but when its dark outside, if you are in your room SHUT the blinds/curtains When outside in the dark if possible, walk on the right hand side of the road facing oncoming trafic and stay in the middle of the pavement I hope for your sake this is sorted quickly!

Unless it was dark outside and you had your bedroom light on, the man couldn't have seen you on your bunk bed. The man could've been just staring into space, couldn't he? You probably had a nightmare about him because your imagination was working overtime. Maybe he too had a nightmare that night about you staring at him. As for the knife suggestion, don't be ridiculous. You have no evidence that the man is out to get you. You'll probably never see him again in reality or your dreams.

I´m gonna say something so stupid if this is not a prank then on what planet do you live? "should you phone the police" no usually you wait till your abducted possibly abused and then maybe killed and then someone finds your body and they call the police, if this is for real i suggest you start paying attention in school and your parents especially the bit warning you of the dangers and what to do. EDIT. You will not be wasting the police´s time if you honestly believe that someone is stalking you then be safe rather than sorry and phone them, if you were my son i would take it seriously until proven otherwise. No disrespect to your mum but i find her attitude to this somewhat complacent, there are many youngsters who have been victims of horrendous crimes, so ask your mum to take this a bit more seriously it has obviously effected you so trust me if you feel this is "real" then contact the police. Apart from that stay safe.

You are describing a psychological disorder called "paranoid personality disorder" (paranoia, panic, lapses in memory). It is very serious, but it is treatable. If your mum doesn't take you seriously (Shame on her!) talk to your school counselor, your physician, any medical professional ... Keep going until you get some help. Please get some treatment before you actually pick up that knife and ruin two lives.

Hi If i were you, i would also be quite concerned! your fear may be getting the better of you,though and making you slightly paranoid, but the fact that you are scared means ultimately that you are in need of protection, it is probably best for you to contact the police, alternatively speak to one of your teachers at school, as they may be able to make special provisions for you when you are on your way to ans from school. It is very important that if you feel someone is watching you then you should try and take note of certian things, like the number plate of the car they are in, times of the day, any tattoos or distinguishing marks that they may have. With regard to your comment about carrying a knife for protection, i would say definately not. you may only be 14 but if you are caught in possession of an offensive weapon then you will be prosecuted and maybe sent to a young offenders prision. Carrying a weapon is not protection. if anything it will get you in more trouble due to the fact that you may end up using it, you sound like a sensible lad so deep down you should know that a knife is not the answer. There are a number of ways in which the police could deal with this, if you can make a note of the mans registration they may be able to track the owner of the car via DVLA, they can then investigate as to why the man was there! it could all be perfectly harmless. although he may also be a registered offender or pervert but they may again have this info on file. The police can also give him a harrassment warning or charge which will mean he cannot come near you or talk to you and if he does he will be arrested. i would also suggest you talk to your mother again, your safety is paramount, you may have just caught her on an off day.